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We Swim

We Swim

Last weekend I met Lizzie Simmonds’ Mum at dinner. Her mum and my mum are friends. They seem to think Lizzie and I have common ground; we are both strong, confident, hard working, resilient… survivors even. It got me thinking about how I’d been swimming often, but not really swum – hard – without fear, since Liberty died.
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Telling The Kids

Telling The Kids

When I came back from America with the record, we sat together and listened. Rocco started crying in a sweet, quiet way, and said ‘I wish she was here’. Cosmo calmly explained that ‘We do too, but that’s OK’
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Moody Mum With Pushchair

Moody Mum With Pushchair

For months after Liberty’s death, whilst I was, (unusually), walking around my neighbourhood during the working week daytime, I would encounter and sometimes be run off the road by ‘Moody Mum with Pushchair’…
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What Is ‘Continuing Bond’?

What Is ‘Continuing Bond’?

It seems clear that if your dead loved one is your child, it’s not going to be within your gift to ‘move on’. I didn’t know about this whole concept of ‘Continuing Bond’, when I wrote ‘I Can Love You From Here’, but I had already figured out that finding a way to actively continue my relationship with Liberty was my only option.
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when it comes to baby loss … Grief is complex ..

when it comes to baby loss … Grief is complex ..

If you don’t know about baby loss and you don’t know about complex grief, you would expect yourself, or parents whom you know have lost a baby, to display and experience grief in a different way. I think it would be helpful if everyone considered this whole topic of grief following baby loss a little further.
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To share, or not to share?

To share, or not to share?

I have noticed that it is helpful for me to explain that things can be different for me and my family, after losing our eldest child to stillbirth. Life is not fair. In my opinion, it is certainly better when you take control of the things that you can, and when you are not afraid to share.
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One baby is not interchangeable with another

One baby is not interchangeable with another

There are a lot of myths and misconceptions about how mothers who lose their babies to stillbirth, miscarriage or neonatal death, feel and behave. It is almost all nonsense and very misleading and patronising, not only for the mums themselves, but also for those trying to support and interact with them.
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You Are Stronger Than You Think

You Are Stronger Than You Think

The truth, of course, is that I do not know what lies ahead for you, and neither do you or anyone else. But I do know that you are stronger than you think. I do know without a doubt that you can survive this loss..
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